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It’s easy to dismiss the paparazzi’s harassment of famous women. After all, they’re usually incredibly privileged. Their lives are—or seem—enviable. Their complaints about being followed and photographed constantly sound to many people like humblebrags.

You’ve probably heard (or perhaps made) these common excuses people make about harassment of celebrity women:

  • "If she didn’t want it, she shouldn’t have become famous."
  • "She should take it as a compliment that people want photos of her."
  • "Yeah, right, I bet she secretly likes the attention."
  • "It’s not a big deal, she should just ignore the paparazzi."
  • "Well, I’d love to be famous and get photographed all the time."

What do these justifications remind you of?

  • "If she didn’t want it, she shouldn’t have gone out wearing a revealing dress."
  • "She should take it as a compliment that guys on the street tell her she’s hot."
  • "Yeah, right, I bet women secretly love getting hit on."
  • "It’s not a big deal, she should just ignore the catcalls."
  • "Well, I’d love it if women hit on me on the street."

That second set is what women often hear when they speak out about catcalling and sexual harassment. It should be clear that these are all variations on a theme: some women do things that make them deserve harassment. Women should take it as a compliment that men violate their space and their sense of safety and privacy. Women may say that harassment feels violating—but deep down they like it. Women shouldn’t let the harassment get to them; it’s just a part of life. They don’t know how good they have it.

[…]In both cases, both the harassment and the subsequent justifications for it stem from the fact that women and their bodies are still seen by many people and in many cases as commodities. Things that would be considered extremely inappropriate when put in general terms (e.g. “stalking strangers to take their picture” or “yelling at strangers in a threatening manner”) suddenly become acceptable to many people once the target is specified as a woman that people (especially men) enjoy looking at, and once the behavior is specified as being motivated in some way by sexuality or by an appreciation for the woman’s appearance.

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