I think that there are a lot of undertones to this, ableism in particular. It is ableism to tell people who cannot easily leave their homes that the relationships and communities they build are somehow lesser. It is ableism to tell people who are not comfortable on phones or in face to face interactions that chatting with people online ‘doesn’t count.’ It is ableism to act like you are somehow better and your relationships are superior if you interact with people face to face.
I don’t know that I’m personally comfortable calling it “ableism” when people devalue MY online friendships, because my inability to interact in-person as much as I want is not caused by disability (except insofar as a little of it is caused by depression). Otherwise, though, I love this post.