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I feel weird saying this because I’ve definitely been a participant in it before, but at this point I’m pretty much over making fun of people who wear fedoras, watch MLP, have “excessive” facial hair, etc. because they’re supposed PUAs/MRAs (and, vice versa, making fun of MRAs/PUAs as fedora wearers, MLP watchers, or “excessive” facial hair havers). My reasons for this are threefold:

1. Jokes like this detract from the actual hypocrisies and horrors of MRA/PUA ideology and give the impression that the problem with them is how they look and what their hobbies are, not what they believe and how they treat others.
2. Jokes like this promote the cultural norm of ridiculing people based on how they look or for their unusual/non-normative/silly interests and hobbies, and that’s not something I want to participate in.
3. Joking in this manner might make me more likely to unfairly and subconsciously judge people with these markers as potential PUAs/MRAs when I don’t actually have any information about their ideology, and I don’t want to encourage this sort of biased thinking in myself.

I am not—not—judging or calling out people who make these jokes. I’m not going to yell at people who make them on my posts. But I’m no longer going to make them myself and I no longer find them funny.

Please do not take this as a passive-aggressive “I’m totally judging you for this while claiming I’m not” thing; I’m sure you’ve seen by now that I’m not only pretty open about it when I’m judging people, but I also have a tendency to say what I mean and mean what I say. There are times when I say “Please don’t do this because I think it’s wrong/because it makes me upset,” and there are times I say, “I’m not going to do this anymore, and here are my reasons in case they have any appeal to you.” This is absolutely the latter.

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    Good point. Also, I kinda want to rescue fedoras and trilby hats - they’re too awesome for MRAs
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    I feel weird saying this because I’ve definitely been a participant in it before, but at this point I’m pretty much over...
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    If you prefer MRAs to most feminists then you haven’t met many MRAs.
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    There is a lot wrong with being an MRA. All that took 5 minutes to find. Imagine how much you could find with a half...
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    Adding on another reason why I feel really awkward about fedora-wearing jokes: fedoras were originally meant to be...

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