I don’t get how I’m supposed to maintain a sense of competence and confidence when:
1. I still don’t have a field placement for next year because 5 of my 6 preferred placements turned me down without even meeting me just because of my age (I was told this; I am not assuming); and
2. It is apparently okay for a professional educator to tell me not to even bother writing a proposed piece because I don’t have a PhD in a tangentially related field, even though I did not ASK for his fucking opinion.
Even the most intense criticism of work I have actually done is preferable to being prevented from doing the work in the first place because I am automatically presumed incompetent due to factors like age, gender, and education level rather than factors like skill and experience.
So FUCK all that “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent” bullshit. I DID NOT CONSENT TO THIS. It happened to me anyway.
- that fucking Buzzfeed privilege quiz
- that fucking scene where they discuss rape in Perdido Street Station
- the ethics of shaming people online in order to protect yourself
- that fucking thing where people jump to demanding solutions without having taken the time to understand the problem and listen to those affected by it
- can evolutionary psychology be good science?
- can you criticize Islam without being Islamophobic?
- that study that shows that young women think male violence is just normal
- that study about the personality traits of online trolls
- that study about how having a partner idealize you can harm the relationship
- that study about how marginalized people appreciate hearing messages of social change more than messages of social support but “allies” are more likely to give message of social support
- that study about _______
Now imagine trying to think about all this shit at the same time and you have my brain. No wonder I’m so exhausted and overwhelmed like all of the time. :P
I really enjoy Shakesville, too.
Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.
And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?